It is not an unknown fact that the first date is the most crucial part of the dating process. It is where everything is assessed and determined whether a second date is a must. On your first date, it is a must that you gather as much information about the personality and characteristic of the person sitting your table. Ask questions that are relevant to you, and ask your date about the things that are important to him or her. With the kind of information that you have, it would be easy for you to make an assessment of your date after both of you have parted ways.
If you are on the process of assessing your date, here are some questions that you should not fail to ask yourself:
- Your Immediate Reaction. What did you feel when you first laid eyes on your date? Did you feel butterflies in your stomach? Did the wind sing happy songs in your ear? Did you find your date physically appealing and inviting? Does your date appear to have good composure? Did he or she gave time grooming himself or herself before showing up? These questions are answered the moment you set eyes on your date. If you can, try to notice every detail of him or her, but don’t be too obvious about it. You don’t want your date to be scared of you. Remember to ask yourself the questions mentioned above to give you guidance when assessing your date.
- Eye Contact. It is important that eye contact is maintained whenever you are having a conversation. If your date does not seem to give his or her attention to you, instead, is looking around. You might want to consider not seeing your date the second time around. So, ask yourself whether he or she is maintaining eye contact to you, or if his or her eyes are wandering around.
- Genuine Interest. Determine whether your date is showing genuine interest towards you. Does his or her body language tell you that he is interested? Is he or she leaning forward to hear you more clearly? Is your date’s posture open or closed? Is he or she being attentive whenever you speak? Does he ask you follow up questions about what you have discussed?
- Life is serious enough not to have some sense of humor. Determine whether your date is easy to laugh, or if he or she laughs at your punch lines. Having fun and being able to appreciate fun is important in a relationship. You have to remember that life outside your relationship can be challenging, and you don’t want the same kind of challenge waiting for you when you see your special someone. You have to remind yourself to determine whether your date is not socially awkward, and if he or she can handle a conversation.
- Speaking of conversation, you have to determine whether your date is balancing your conversation. Does he or she ask you questions as much as he or she talks about himself or herself? You should remember that you are on your first date, and both of you should equally share information. If your date does not seem to care about you, then it’s a red flag. In addition, determine whether your date’s tone of conversation is leaning towards pessimistic or optimistic, or negative or positive. You should also remember to ask about your date about his or her aspirations, dreams, and plans. This will help you assess if a future together is possible.
- Is your date talking too much about being intimate or sex on your first date? If so, this should tell you that your date puts emphasis and priority on sex over everything else. You should determine the type of relationship your date is seeking before you decide to move on to the next level.
- The Total Package. At the end of your date, you should be able to give a sound rating, which would determine whether a second date is a green light. Rate your date based on the entire experience. Ask yourself whether you can rate your date as a 10, 5, 1, or somewhere in between.
Of course, there are more questions that you can ask yourself about how your first date went, but the questions stated above should give you an outline of how things are going to be between you and your date. You just have to remember to notice and observe.